Almost by definition, if you set an example worth following, you are leading. You don’t need to be in charge to set a good example. Nor do you need to hold a high position in an organization to set a good example. You simply have to understand what a good example would be and become it.
Being in charge does not always mean coming up with the best ideas. Sometimes it means recognizing the best example set in a group and following it regardless of who set it.
My daughter sets a good example. She doesn’t attempt things — she attacks them. When something gets hard for her, she just gets more determined. She’s only six but we could all learn from an example like hers.
Recently she picked up on some of the perspective instruction I’ve been reviewing. I didn’t intend to teach it to her yet because I would have thought her too young to understand. She is proving me wrong on that count. She was single handedly going through enough paper doing exercises like the one below to make a forest cringe. My wife got her a chalkboard/whiteboard easel to save a tree or two.
She is dedicated to figuring perspective out. She was the same way when she was learning to read. Watching her struggle through the early stages was painful at times. Sounding out every single word was a major endeavor. Simply reading the word “the†would take 15 to 20 seconds and would be pronounced wrong. It didn’t bother her that it was hard, or that it didn’t come naturally. She stuck with it and got better in imperceptible strides. Now, not surprisingly, she reads very well for her age.
As adults, we forget what it’s like to not be good at something. Kids, being new to everything, aren’t expert at anything. They have no comfort zones to cling to. We adults often do have comfort zones and we hide in them very well. No one wants to do something poorly, but when building a new skill we can choose to do it poorly for a while or not to do it at all. Too often, adults choose the “not at all†option.
Kids don’t though. My daughter doesn’t worry about perfection. She seems to understand the futility of that. When she shows me her latest drawing, or even throws a frisbee, she never asks if it is perfect. Instead she asks, “Was that my best one yet?â€
Yesterday I told her I wanted to be like her when I grow up.
“But Daddy,†she said, “you are grown up.â€
Yes. But as long as I follow her example, I’m not done growing.